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Younger son’s best friend came over today along with his two sisters.  In total, I had a ten-year old boy, a ten-year old girl, two eight-year old boys, and a three-year girl in my house for four hours.  Plus the 15 pets (1 cat, 3 kittens, 1 dog, 2 bearded dragons, and 8 fish…okay, the eight fish don’t require a lot of attention).  It was a full house of chaos.

At one point the three-year old girl said, “You talk about me.”… “No, we don’t. Why would you think that?”… “I dreamed about you and Younger Son. And you talked about me.”

Then there was a loud noise competition between the three-year old girl and my oldest, the ten-year old boy.

Another moment during the afternoon, I hear “I’m done!”  I looked around, not sure what that meant.  The ten-year old sister stood up, and sheepishly explained it meant her sister was done in the bathroom, ready for help, heading down the hall to the bathroom.

Sitting at the dining room table, my two sons and the three-year old were all still eating pizza, when the sweet little girl passed some gas.  My sons looked at me, at each other, back at me, then she passed a little more gas.  They looked at me again and I gave them the look that said, “she’s three, she can’t help it, and I know what each of you are capable of at this table, so let it go.”

These are the joyous moments of motherhood that make me realize I am glad I have an eight-year old son and a ten-year old son.  I do not miss diapers, playpens, toddler years, preschool years.  I loved those years when we were in them (how did I have the energy?!?), but I love where we are even more.  Those early moments are so very precious.  Each stage of childhood is precious and I’ve never been one to look back and sigh, missing the stage that had been grown out of.  Today, I realized I barely remember the stages the boys have grown out of.  I loved the silliness, the discoveries, the wonder of the world through their eyes, but I love where they are even more, so much so I don’t miss where they’ve been.

I also realized I have brought out a good number of breakable items that had been packed away for so long while they were little, little boys.  Okay, the items weren’t packed away all that long, but it felt like a long time while we were in it.  The boys are just such interesting people…I love watching them discover more and more about themselves.  I realized their days do not revolve around me (like days do when they are so little) and that’s a good thing.  Hell, sometimes I’m just the annoying mom now.

I love that my sons stay up till around midnight most nights whispering in their room, having “bro talk” about topics ranging from Lego design, to life dreams, to deep conversations about how to handle peer pressure.

I love that younger son tells me and Hubby that we are addicted to Law and Order SVU and that he’s going to call Dick Wolf and tell him to take it off the air.

I love when older son steps up by stepping back and letting his younger brother take the lead.

I love that they still share a room and have the other room set up with their Legos and beardies.

I love that they take turns walking the dog and they are nurturing the kittens with such love and attention.

I love that we live in our house, the house of chaos.  (In the middle of the street…it was our castle and our keep…)

I love that they love that song.

Night owls need to work in the middle of the night every now and then just to get their mojo back.  At least, that is what works for me.  I found a Christopher Guest movie on demand, A Mighty Wind, and, in two hours, I knocked out a ton of work that has been put on the back burner over and over at work.  Not one of these tasks was overly difficult but needed just a bit of brain power and concentration to accomplish.  But to find five minutes at work when I’m not interrupted is the challenge.

Keep in mind, the interruptions at work are my favorite part of the job.  Interruptions at my job are students who come into my office seeking help, a safe space to decompress, or candy.  Interruptions are tutors who want advice on what to do with their lives.  Interruptions are colleagues who need to share an “aha” moment or vent so they can put on a “Pop” face and finish the day.  The interruptions are the human connection of my job and they are my favorite parts.  They beat the pants off of reports, statistical analysis, or reading through dozens of emails.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m pretty good at those parts too, but my favorite parts of the job are the students.

This semester my approach is it’ll happen when it does and keep it fun.  Mostly this approach is because of the weather.  No one wants to walk around campus in the cold and snow so we’re off to a slow start.  As I walk around campus, I am reminded of “Strawberry Spring”, a lovely short story from Uncle Stevie.  I do not want the plot from this story to happen on my campus, but the snow reminds me of it.  The campus does have a beautiful, creepy feel to it at the moment.

Speaking of Uncle Stevie, I am working on creating a training for my pirates (the writing tutors) from his book On Writing.  We’ve started Twitter and Instagram accounts and the ball will start rolling on those.  We’ll also be starting a blog.  These will be primarily megalomaniacal in nature because getting people to follow you is near impossible, but it’s fun and a good experience for when the tutors get into the “REAL” world.

It’ll happen when it does and keep it fun.  Kind of like my blog.

The Labyrinth of Life

labyrinthThe boys have gotten hooked on Labyrinth.  I find the best way to get them interested in a movie that I feel is a classic, one they need in their repertoire, is to not ask them to watch it.  If I simply start watching it, they will usually join in and discover it “on their own”.  Younger son has asked to watch Labyrinth several times since the first time he found it on his own.  Both are walking around quoting it and singing the awesome David Bowie songs.  At first, they weren’t sure about this guy playing the goblin king, but when I explained that he was the other singer with Queen on “Under Pressure”, he gained points immediately.  They have loved learning that Jim Henson was the mastermind behind the movie.

It’s funny.  The boys were never that into Sesame Street.  They knew who Kermit was, and a few others from the neighborhood, but they never became regular viewers.  The Muppets came closer to their interests.  But Labyrinth really connected with them.  I can’t wait till they “discover” The Dark Crystal.  The Skeksis and Mystics, the Gelflings, the shard!  I do a mean impression of Aughra!

The boys are growing up faster than I would like, but if we can share some movies, books, stories, memories, and keep creating ways to open conversations, I’ll be happy.  The Labyrinth has already opened ways for the boys to talk about feeling like they don’t fit in at school.  Sarah is an awesome geek hero (I can write this because I, too, am a geek).

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Our home is full of furry and not-so-furry creatures.  Rex joined us in June and he’s a  fantastic dog.  Three little kittens joined us in December and they are too adorable for words.  Then for Christmas, each son received a bearded dragon kit from Santa and the next day each son picked out his beardie.  Obviously this means there are crickets in the house as well.  Solid and steadfast through all of these changes has been Shemp, the 13 year old matriarch cat.

IMG_8041Rex got a new bed from Santa for Christmas.  He likes to rest his head on it as he adores pillows.  The bed was lovingly chosen by Santa to perfectly coordinate with our bedroom.  It doesn’t spend much time there because…

 

 

 

 

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And the kittens…
TJ is the orange one, Cujo is the fluffy one on the right, and Loki, little fur ball of mischief, is toward the bottom of this photo just about winking at you.

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Photos of the beardies will come soon enough.  At the moment, they are asleep with their night-light bulbs shining a purple glow on their habitats.

These little creatures do fill one’s heart with love.  Even the reptiles.

01/05/14

This is the day I finally finished reading 11/22/63 by Uncle Stevie.  As the very dedicated Gentle Readers will recall, I became too scared to continue reading this book when I first began reading it in the fall of 2012.  Yes, 11/22/63 sat on the floor with the pile of “in progress” books untouched for well over a year.  Uncle Stevie wove into this story tiny bits of It and this scared the crap out of me.  Also, Hubby’s family name was used on the back cover which I didn’t notice until after reading about Bev and Rich near the Barrens.  But as of today, I finished reading the remaining 700 or so pages in about 12 over hours over the span of the past three days.  As I continued reading, the red and white 1958 Plymouth Fury kept showing up and I really wanted to smack Uncle Stevie across the face.  There was also a line about a Saint Bernard being a nice dog but still shooting it if it had rabies.  I grant you that I may read far too much into these books, but I know Uncle Stevie likes to throw this things in just to make sure you’re paying attention.

The saddest part of all is that the book is over.  I’ve read it.  I wish it hadn’t ended.  Granted, I just got Doctor Sleep and will begin reading that tomorrow, but I really liked 11/22/63.  Especially that it scared the crap out of me.  And I wish it hadn’t ended.  Jake was a lovely character.  He had a lot of strength and loyalty.  I didn’t want to leave his world(s).  But eventually I came to page 842 and was left with only the “Afterword” (which is always fulfilling for a geek like me).  I left the world(s) of Jake and space time continuums, threads, butterfly effects, and lost love.  Back into good old 2014.  Sure, 2014 is only five days old, but it’s still the “good old” reality.

The idea of ghosts, echoes, and harmonies existing in the world is something I could read about forever.  Don’t misunderstand, the story is not quite a ghost story, but the idea of shadows, ghosts, lingering and leaving their imprints.  We are ghosts.  We leave our memories wherever we have been.  The walls can talk-we just forget to listen a lot of the time.  When was the last time you sat in your own home, with complete quiet?  All the televisions, computers, smart phones, and video games turned off.  Just listening to the sound of your house, with all its settling and sounds of your family’s life breathing in and out in the quiet?  There’s something about reading a book in the silence, dedicated time for reading, that helps make the book come alive even more than when you read in a place with noise to pass the time.  Think about when you read a book (paper or virtual, though I still prefer the paper kind) while waiting at the doctor’s office.  Or on your lunch break in the office, removed from your coworkers, but still able to hear the ebb and flow of an office.  That reading is different than the reading you do at home, with everything turned off so your house is quiet.  The best reading is at night in the glow of a reading lamp, with the outside filled with darkness surrounding you and hiding reality so you can delve into the book’s reality.

And when the book is about alternate realities it’s even better.  The science of 11/22/63, when Jake is speaking with Zack about the strings, is a conversation that was blessedly short and not overly scientific.  When I even briefly think about chaos theory and string theory, my mind starts to swirl and I question the world far too much.  I like my ignorance in this area, thank you very much.  The last 100 pages of the story raised my blood pressure (my doc won’t be happy about that, it’s been running high just lately) but it’ll calm itself as the vividness starts to fade.

Some stories never fade, do they?  It haunts me constantly.  I swear, when I walk Rex, I think he knows about Pennywise because he is very leery of storm drains and sewers.  Does he know that we all float down here?  I don’t think I actually need my tattered copy of Night Shift to read “One for the Road”.  It’s pretty much there in my memory whenever I want it.  “Strawberry Spring” too.  Hubby even recalled “One for the Road”.  He read it to me, over a decade ago, one night to help me fall asleep (yes, Uncle Stevie helps me sleep).  I mentioned it the other evening and he remembered it.  He remembered reading it.  It lingers with me…is she still waiting for her goodnight kiss?

11/22/63 will linger for a while, not like It has since I first read that in 1986, but for a while at least.  Then there’s Doctor Sleep.  It’s getting to harder to keep my reserved King books in reserve.  I’m curious.  I want to enter their worlds.  But the reserved ones will have to keep.  Plus, Uncle Stevie keeps on writing.  And I keep on reading.

 

A brand new antibiotic

For the first time in my life I am taking an antibiotic other than amoxicillin.  This is a big event for me.  I typically only take an antibiotic once every two or three years.  Not a big fan of them and happily don’t need them often.  But this annoying sinus infection has been around for a month and I’ve had no voice for the past ten days.  The boys have never been happier.  Mom can’t yell.  Hubby has been calling me Rose.

Remember that scene in Titanic after the boat sank and Rose is floating on the wood?  (Spoiler alert-the ship sinks.)  She croaks out, “Jack, there’s a boat.”  She promises she’ll never let go and then lets go of his hand.  The she calls out in her croaky voice, “Come back, come back!”  That’s been me all week.

I’ve been off from work all week because the university is closed.  It’s been lovely.  Hubby and I have been watching Law & Order SVU marathons every day (doink doink).  The boys have been enjoying Disney Infinity and Skylanders Swapforce.  When we hooked up the Infinity, we spent the first hour or so just playing on a giant green field and had a blast.  We’re easy to please.  Adopted #3 Son helped us to hook it up and suggested we try some of the other neat features.  The boys have been exploring it.  I still have to explore the world with Captain Jack Sparrow.

We have a full house of animals now.  Shemp is slowly accepting the adorable three kittens-Cujo, TJ, and Loki.  Rex is very excited to meet them, but they have to get a little bigger.  Each still only weighs about two or three pounds.  Little kittens were abandoned in a farm and we couldn’t just take one, or two.  We couldn’t leave one all by itself so… we have three kittens.

We already had the seven fish and now we have eight.

And of course the biggest, current excitement is two bearded dragons!  Camo and Gunter are each enjoying their new 40 gallon tanks with decor, water bowls, carpet, heat lamps, sunlight lamps, nighttime lamps, and daily crickets, salad, and food pellets.  They are thriving and pooping regularly (which in the world of a mother, regular poops are always a good sign).

And danger has just entered.  Hubby found SVU on demand.  This is not good.  I see many hours captivated by Dick Wolf.  Damn you, Dick Wolf.  Damn you, doink doink.

Miss you, Freddie

freddieStill miss him all these years later.  I still remember finding out about it from my roommate when I got back to our apartment.  Tonight I am watching the We Will Rock You concert.  He just finished singing “Love of my Life”… one of my favorites.  The concert also includes an amazing live version of “Somebody to Love”.  His voice still makes me sit in awe.  I still sit and stare at the showmanship, the performance, he and the band were phenomenal.  I looked again at the sheet music collection for their songs and realized that while I enjoy reading them, I will never be able to play them.  Far too complicated for my humble understandings of music.

I am thankful we have so many different ways of enjoying Freddie Mercury and his music, and Queen, but I still wish he were here making more music with the band, kid.

 

 

Addams Family Unplugged

Last night Hubby taught older son how to play chess while younger son and I played piano.  We discovered how many keys just don’t work anymore and that it is way more out of tune than we thought.

Day Off #1-spent time cuddling with the boys, Rex and I had a great walk in the rain, a trip to the dentist, only a few texts and about a dozen work emails, and one workshop at work.  This trip to work also accommodated getting our milk as the dairy is closer to work.  Hubby and I dealt with moving all the food from the now-broken fridge to the one that works.  Cooked a lot of bacon so we wouldn’t lose it.  Gave Rex and Shemp their flea treatments.  Boys are sleeping, I’m watching JP, and about to go to sleep.  Tomorrow is too jam packed to get near a computer so whoo hoo!

It’s a wonderful thing to go unplugged every once in a while, like last night.  No television, no computers, just family conversation and really out of tune music.  Tomorrow is another day when we’ll be primarily unplugged.  I will savor every moment with my three stooges tomorrow and the rest of the weekend.

Bonfire and Hayride

Our town…no, not the play, but the town I live in, has a bonfire and hayride each October.  I have lived here since September of 2001 and I finally made it to the bonfire this year!  Both sons really wanted to go so we went.  I was exhausted.  Happily, it seemed as though every kid in town was there, so I let the boys wander and play.  Plus there were three police officers on foot and one on a quad so I figured the boys would have to work really hard at getting lost on the trails.  No one was allowed on those that night.

It was a good old fashioned night and seeing so many folks from our tiny town together filled me with a warm feeling.  The boys had a blast.  I suspect this has quickly become an annual event for us.

 

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And here is the park without bonfire…it really is beautiful.

 

 

 

Happily, although the evening evoked Our Town in my mind’s eye, no one there was dead.