Posts Tagged ‘brothers’

My older brother died in 2017. He was only 48 and I miss him dreadfully. But he reconnected me with my dad and that whole side of my family after 28 years. And he continues to help me connect with people who were such an important part of my life when I was young.

And these people are the ones I was constantly told were “bad” and I should be thankful she was protecting me from them.

She was not good in her heart. Meanwhile all these wonderful people are right here to help me in ways I could have never imagined.

Thank you, Shaun, for not giving up on me. I love you.

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While Older Son has about another decade before he has the PhD, I am a paleontologist’s mom.

A sample of his patience with my ignorance.

Lifelong learners. 🙂

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Older Son had a safe flight out to Montana yesterday. He is out there with GeoDESLA2019. Super proud of this kid. He’s in his element and I know he’ll learn a lot. Follow the adventure at www.geodesla2019.wordpress.com.

And so it has begun. He flew by himself. He worked his first job this summer. It was at a sleep-away camp so we only saw him on his day off. He’s jumping leaps and bounds in the gaining independence category this summer. Two years…and he’ll be at college.

And so it has begun. Some of his days off were spent with friends, and I barely saw him. He’s learned quite quickly different spending habits when it’s money he worked for. He independently handled the airport, a flight with strangers that at the end of the Montana trip will be friends.

This is all joyful and what parents hope will happen for their children…but, dagnabbit, it flies by.

And so it has begun…Younger Son has started a transformation as well with the change in summer norms. He’s been doing projects around the house, enjoying full control of the PS4, went to both sailing camps, and is in full swing with marching band.

And so it continues. They are both still my babies, always will be my Squid & Jellyfish. Always those two sweet mischievous boys. They know their sappy, emotional mom and so they give hugs when she asks, pose sweetly for pics (and sometimes goofy). They are putting it all together and making connections about this thing called life so beautifully.

And so it has begun that in the not too distant future I will be obsolete from the day to day little things and shift to the bigger picture conversations and questions. And I will embrace that as I have every other moment of their lives. And hold them in my heart always.

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My boys current look reminds me of only one other set of brothers.



The Brothers Gibb

barry and andy gibb

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late December back in 63…oh, wait, it’s only late October. Then why is there a snowstorm raging on my birthday? I’m used to the crisp autumn weather on my birthday. The scent of wood burning stoves filling the air, the sound of leaves crunching under your feet, and the glow of jack-o’-lanterns lighting front porches. It’s odd watching scary movies and then looking out the window and seeing snow swirling around the sky.

Ah, birthdays. I’ve always liked my birthday. Always had Halloween themed birthday parties. It’s always festive and everywhere is decorated making for a fun time to get a little older. I don’t mind getting older. As one of my students once told me, I’m not old, I’m cultured. So I’m a bit more cultured today.

Actually, what made me feel a bit more cultured lately is watching the ever-developing relationship of my sons. They were in trouble a week ago or so and as I was talking to them (I’m sure sounding like a grown-up from Charlie Brown), I noticed they were holding hands. A little show of solidarity against the parental figure. Then last night they announced they finally feel like brothers. They said they used to feel 1/4 like brothers, then 1/2, then 1/2 and 1/4 (which I explained was 3/4), but tonight they were full brothers. I can’t say I understand it at all, but they have gotten along beautifully the past couple of days so I’m not questioning it. They did things when I asked them to the first time I asked them. They are using their manners, sharing things without being asked to, and generally being the sweetest boys I’ve ever met.

We played Doodle Dice today and went to a Harvest (Halloween) party at church. We had an awesome day. The full-fledged brothers are enjoying life quite nicely.

As much as I say I don’t understand it, I think I might. They are growing up. They are closer to each other than they each were with me, individually. They used to turn to Mom for stuff, now it makes more sense to turn to brother. They have common memories and experiences that have brought them closer. They have come to realize they share more in common, they know what each other is feeling. They know what each other is going through. I am so happy they are full-fledged brothers. This is a bond I hope they share their entire lives.

My job is clear. Support them, love them, encourage them. All the things I’ve been doing to the best of my ability. And give them their own space and time together. Let them have their secrets, their private conversations, their shared dreams. And enjoy hearing them giggle in bed as they fall asleep.

Greatest birthday gift ever.

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